The disorder we all suffer from

We love our family dog, Dolce.  The name is an Italian musical term that means “sweetly.”  It fits perfectly.  She is one of the kindest, gentlest dogs I’ve ever known. Her favorite occupation…being with us. She will lie down near the table when we’re eating. She will camp out in the middle when we are conversing.  She will take naps with Heidi. But that’s not how we found her.

When our family went to the local animal shelter some years ago, all the abandoned dogs were leaping and yelping in their cages, wanting our attention, desperate to be adopted. All except Dolce.  She was cowering in her cage, shaking, almost hiding from us.  It was one of the most pitiful things I’ve ever seen.  The attendant said that she was found abandoned, alone, and afraid.  We immediately fell in love and took her home.  She’s been attached to us ever since.

What I saw in Dolce is a good picture of the human heart.  We all ache to be attached.  It’s our life blood.  To be abandoned, alone, and afraid is not just terrifying.  It’s death.  Babies are known to die simply because they were untouched and unloved.  We need this attachment as much as we need oxygen and water.  The problem is not our desire to attach.  The problem is what we attach to.

Here is where our super-glue attachment to idols becomes so apparent.  We look to a girl-friend or boy-friend.  We look to success in sports or business.  We look to physical appearance.  We look to children.  We look to money or education or cars or job or even marriage.

Our chosen idols seduce us with the momentary pleasure of attachment, wrapping their arms of comfort around us.  Now we don’t feel so abandoned, alone, or afraid.   But as time goes on, those same arms squeeze tighter, at first bruising and then strangling us.  Only then do we realize that our idol is exacting an unforeseen toll.  The attachment we thought was going to give us life is slowly killing us.

This is the great dilemma.  This is the human condition.  And we all have it.  It’s a universal disorder, an attachment disorder.

What is the hope?   There is only one.  To reattach to the Father in heaven.  That’s what Jesus came to do.  That’s where these blogs will go.  Come and join me on the journey this year.

About Coach D

I have been a teacher and a coach for many years. My real name is Bill Delvaux, but my students call me Coach D, hence the user name. This blog is about the journey into the unknown I am walking and the landmarks I am navigating along the way. The destination: becoming who I really am as a man. I invite you to join me by reading along every Monday and Thursday.
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4 Responses to The disorder we all suffer from

  1. I really feel this is the Great Awakening of the 21st century. Healing from attachment disorder is the Gospel, seen from Genesis to the maps – from “repent” to “abiding”, as Jesus speaks to our health. And the Lord’s harvest increases.

    • Coach D says:

      Well said! This is the deep ache beyond all the others, Rex. We are saved from the abyss of non-being as well as all the tragic ways we try to attach. I think you may be prophetic here. Maybe this will be the focus of the next Great Awakening. We need it desperately.

  2. pauline taaffe says:

    Great writing sweet story and a wonderful message…cant wait to read more!!…..Pauline Taaffe.

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